Ms.PSM tries to make biweekly entries into this, her PSM diary. It would make her so happy if you left a comment or two along the way. You don't want her to start hoarding things to keep herself company, do you?

Post-Single MotherhoodTM (PSM) is both pitifully sad and pure joy. It is unrelenting and unpredictable. It is discouraging and encouraging, discombobulating and enlightening. Sometimes, it's a super-sized combo of all of the above. And yet, it can be entertaining and downright comical. The idea is to capture all this here.

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Wednesday
Jun292011

28-Day Pit Stop (June) 

AuthorMs.PSM

On the 28th day of each month (in honor of PMS and that whole menstrual cycle thing), we make a Pit-Stop to rally support for each other during a particular moment of PSM. This month, again, we're a little late. What's new, right?

This month's little adventure is entitled "Venturing Out Alone".

Listen, I'm the first one to say that in the throes of PSM, the last thing we want is be told to "get out there". In fact, for me, nothing made me sadder, because I just couldn't, and, frankly, didn't want to. I understand that we need time to get through the first stages of PSM on our own and at our own pace. We need time to grieve. I want you to take that time to just be sad, believe me. Some days, nothing helps PSM more than a good cry or a spell of vegetation.

But the minute you see a flash of light at the end of that proverbial tunnel (and you will - probably in the Rehabilitation Stage), I want you to do something that I didn't do. Venture out alone. Take a baby step. Do something close to home. But it has to be something you don't normally do. On a new road. In a new part of your town. A different time of day. Maybe you never leave the house before noon on Saturday? Well, make sure to plan this for first thing Saturday morning. Even if it's a mile from home, go. And go alone. Take a tour. Or walk a path. Or go to a grocery store you've never been to. Or just drive. I think you'll be surprised how ready people are to welcome you. The PSM you. The new you.

I've been on a road trip of my own for the last couple of weeks, and I will tell you more about it as soon as I collect my thoughts, but there have been moments that I think may just be redefining me. I feel more confident, more comfortable, and more accepted than I ever have. And these were tiny moments in the scheme of things. Nothing major. Nothing earth-shattering. Just seemingly me-shattering. It's my first glimpse of that Satisfaction Stage I talk about.

Trust me. Venture out. Alone. One baby step at a time. If you need a shove, let me know!! Hey, I do what I can. : ) Email me at psm@psming.com. And if you do venture out, please share in a comment below.

June's Pit Stop Suggestions:

Just one: Solo Road Trip! Even if it's a mile from your house.

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